I read a lot of articles in Facebook and many stories about married person having affair. It is easy to condemn whatever things that happened but when it appears to be real in your life, that will be another story that is totally unsolvable. I heard a lot of story from friends and even knew some of them who is fooling Or much better to call it as having affair behind their spouse. Lot of questions are thrown; and the most common is, WHY would this happen in the first place? It is either this hidden relationship already there before his/her marriage or probably poor treatment from the spouse that drives the other to source for new partner. If the other / new partner is kind of understanding and never gives you problems, that partner will surely be the one that this man/woman is going to rely on as long it last. but when you talking about separating them that is another difficult part. It is nice to have someone care and do something special for you especially those your spouse refuse to do so. But when things turn sour should that from your spouse or partner, damn you will have to prepare for the worst.
The same for my dad. He has 2 wives. I keep wondering why would he troubles himself having 2? He did mentioned to me that it is hard to decide especially what you wanted to do but once you have decided you will have to walk through it without regret. He further added that it is much better to call prostitute or one night stand than having GF or mistress in marriage life. If both wives is purely understanding and able to tolerate to each other; which is impossible; that is call miracle otherwise stick to 1 wife will do. Like it or not, I am married and sometimes when it comes to a stage where I have to do everything in my family I started to ask questions like "am I married?", "why everything is still the same as before?". When I discovered there are some woman out there who pay more attention to my problem and able to justify who is right or wrong, I keep stopping myself to get close to her and trying hard to distance myself with them. If I insist things never happen to me, I guess everyone would says BULLSHIT. But if I say yes I bet plenty would says I am such an ARSEHOLE. Seriously I am so worry what I am going to do. I am now stuck right in the middle wondering what is right and wrong despite knowing what is wrong. I am having hard time with my exgf as she is not happy over my marriage. She lures me, blame me, accusing me, cursing me and hate me until today. I am not sure what she is trying to achieve. Hopefully it is over soon.
I am good on bed and I have great demand especially on how to get things done and how hygiene it is. Just because my spouse is all in the opposite direction of mine, I started to hate activities on bed and rather choose to get things done myself. Trauma? Am not sure. But I know I started to dream of fulfilling my desire like what my dad taught me. But will that consider healthy? I wish I can just have the feel as before with my spouse otherwise I am so sure I am in deep trouble.
